Not so reluctantly… asking for help! (8/16/2018)

My vision for this blog is two-fold. Selfishly, I want to document my adventures with Arabella so I can look back at them later, but I also hope it can be a place to share things others might relate to. To that extent, I’ve had so much fun the last few days hearing from old friends who reached out after reading my first few posts. People who have had similar experiences sharing laughs– others offering advice. One friend, whose opinion I respect, shared an observation. She told me that the title of my blog made it seem like I didn’t want to be a mom– and that it might be offensive to others who had struggled (or were struggling) with fertility. I admittedly never thought about it like that, so I was very glad for her input. I’ve met with enough TV consultants over the years to know that if one person takes the time to tell you something there are at least ten others who are thinking it. (As it turns out, one of those ten was my husband!) So, if you were offended by the title of my blog– I apologize. Attempts at being clever don’t always translate in a digital world.

To be honest, I’ve always wanted a family, but I’ve always been apprehensive about my ability to be a mother. I’m not maternal. I’m not nurturing. And I’ve never been one of those people who was naturally good with kids. Heck, I got fired from a baby sitting job because the kids told their mom they hated me! (To be fair, I wasn’t crazy about them either.).

Anyway- A few years ago, I read Love With A Chance Of Drowning by Torre DeRoche. It’s about a girl (DeRoche) who meets a guy and goes on a huge sailing trip– despite being petrified of water. DeRoche describes herself as a “fearful adventurer” because she desperately wants to be adventurous even though the act of being adventurous terrifies her. The message really resonated with me then– and still does now. So, that’s where The Reluctant Mom came from. I’ve always wanted to be a mom even though the actual act of being a mom terrifies me. BUT, as I’ve also learned over the years, perception is more important than reality… so I’m in the market for a new blog title. Got an idea? Send it my way.

Also, if you are looking for a good read to end the summer, I highly recommend DeRoche’s book. It’s honest, funny and will leave you feeling inspired to go on an adventure.